surrendering your autonomy to another is not for WIMPS.

"Reverence is more than just doing what a man expects or demands. It is an act of the woman's will to treat him with a high degree of regard and awe."


Reverence- 1. a feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe; veneration.
2. the outward manifestation of this feeling: to pay reverence.
3. a gesture indicative of deep respect; an obeisance, bow, or curtsy.

you know, I'm pretty sure the word "reverence" was in our marriage ceremony, I'm going to have to go back and look that up... just like the word submissive was in there too, I'm sure...
I watched our wedding video a few weeks ago, I remember the part where pastor Glen is giving us some vital information about marriage, what it is, what it means, and we are standing up there, googling at each other, smiling nervous excited smiles, mumbling things under our breath.. totally not paying attention to what he was saying. truth is, even if I was really listening that day, I didn't know what those words meant at all! I am just barely learning what they are now. oh reverence, it is an outward act of the heart, and if your heart is not there... your man, he will know.
Mrs. Pearl says this... "Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language. it is not enough to get up and serve him; your eyes and the quick, carefree swing of your body must indicate your delight to be engaged in serving your man. You cannot fool a man. He can see your heart as well or better than you can!!!!!"

I was definitely going against the grain in my marriage... like, "if you do this, I'll do that"... conditional. My heart is being changed, God is teaching me what being a wife really means, how many times did I shoot him down, discourage his giftings, walk on him, take him for granted, disrespect him, did not show him reverence...
really though, how can you really if you don't know? I wish someone would have taught me these things before, going through all of this makes me want to be a pre-marital counselor for young women! hahaha...

I was starting to believe the worlds standards of marriage and of women's role in marriage. "we deserve respect, we have a say, we can lead, we have a voice, we can make decisions...etc..." I'm sorry, people, LADIES.. .its just not God's design.. we are help meets... created to help meet his needs. of course God has a design for the way our husbands should love us, but I'm workin on me...

"Our failure to know and believe the written words of God has caused us to accept a cultural lie."

I have been told I was neglected, I was walked on, I was taken advantage of, I was the one lonely and not treasured... I'm beginning to see how me not living and walking in the role that God designed me to walk in, how that caused MANY problems for us... I see how my upbringing with an independent single mom has shaped a lot of my views and distance from the word "submission"...
God can change this, he is so good, he is so faithful! He has a plan for me.. he is changing my heart, helping me see, taking me through this every step of the way, and no matter what the outcome (though, we all know what I'm praying for) I will come out stronger, and maybe a pinch wiser...

treasure your husbands, build them up, help them to become the man that God has designed and created them to be. go out of your way for them... go give him a great BIG wet one!!

maybe I'm just the tard that never knew all of this, in that case... what the heck! why didn't any of you speak up!!

<3
K.